Why Every Child Needs a Mother and Father

God has entrusted man with the power to reproduce and bring new life into the earth. This is an enormous responsibility because every human life is an eternal spirit that will live forever, either in heaven or hell.

When men and women come together to have sex, they are probably not thinking about the eternal consequences of their actions, but the consequences are just as real whether we are aware of them or not.

From God’s perspective, He imparts an eternal living spirit into every person. He is entrusting that spirit into the hands of the parents. He set up the marriage covenant to provide protection for the lives of the newborn baby, but also for the parents.

There is a lot of evidence showing that America has forgotten God. One example is the fact that so many Americans have forgotten the marriage covenant, which is God’s ordained way for a man and a woman to be joined together. When a man and woman come together in a covenant before God, they honor God and God honors them in return by joining them together as one flesh.

For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. (Genesis 2:24)

I am amazed to see so many young girls today having babies without a husband. My niece is one of them. While she was still pregnant, we asked her if she was going to get married to the father of the baby. She said they had talked about it, but he felt like he did not know her well enough to marry her. He knew her well enough to have sexual intercourse, but not enough to take any responsibility for his actions. That is precisely the kind of reckless behavior that God hopes we will avoid because of the harm it does to everyone involved.

The young girls that I know who are pregnant and single are very excited about having a baby. They seem to be completely unaware of what lies ahead, the challenges of raising a child as a single parent. They also seem to be unaware that they have violated God’s plan for marriage and parenting. Their ignorance does not make their situation any easier for them or for their new babies.

They are unknowingly violating God’s will and bringing heartache and misery upon their lives. Not only are things harder for them in a practical sense but they have also taken a position against God because they have disregarded Him and not followed His way for doing things. They are out of God’s order.

God’s reason for requiring a marriage covenant is to protect us from getting hurt and to protect newborn children from coming into the world without the stability of having a father and a mother. When we disregard God’s way of doing things, we are not only hurting ourselves and other people, but we are disregarding God. By our actions, we are demonstrating to God that we do not trust Him or believe Him or even consider Him in our decisions. This is why God calls it an act of treachery when we bring illegitimate children into the world. It is an act of betrayal.

They have dealt treacherously against the Lord, for they have borne illegitimate children. Now the new moon will devour them with their land. (Hosea 5:7 NASB)

The Hebrew word ‘zur’, which is translated as illegitimate, literally means ‘to be a stranger’. Israel was guilty of having children with foreigners, which was forbidden by God, and also by adultery, which is outside the marriage covenant. The point is anything outside of God’s ordained marriage covenant is an act of treachery against Him and brings judgment and destruction to anyone who does these things and to their land.

In their ignorance, young people are betraying God and taking sides against Him. They are committing acts of betrayal and treachery against God. They are putting themselves in a position that God cannot bless because it is in direct contradiction to His instructions. Those who violate His commandments are making a statement to God by their actions, telling Him they do not need Him or want Him in their lives. They might not say those words with their mouths but they are saying them with their deeds, which is what matters most.

Raising children as a single parent is challenging enough. Doing it without the blessings of God is a formula for disaster. Even so, God offers hope to those who are willing to repent from their disobedience and come to Him. No matter how many mistakes we have made, God stands ready to forgive us if we are willing to humble ourselves and come to Him with all of our hearts. That is what releases the blessings of God in our lives.

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